"Your" and "You're", a tutorial.

Too often do I see people type things like "your welcome", "where's you're car", and my personal favorite "your stupid". The problem with all of these examples, if you're still unaware is the improper use of the forms of "you". Let me give you a definition of these forms:

Your: /yʊər, yɔr, yoʊr; unstressed yər/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [yoor, yawr, yohr; unstressed yer]

1. (a form of the possessive case of you used as an attributive adjective): Your jacket is in that closet. I like your idea. Compare yours.

You're: /yʊər; unstressed yər/ Show Spelled Pronunciation [yoor; unstressed yer]

1. contraction of you are: You're certain that's right?


What does this mean?
It means that when you use the word "your" you are implying that someone has ownership of an object, and when you use the contraction "you're" (you+are) you are implying that a person is something.

If you're having trouble trying to figure out which to use, just take a moment and think. Let's take the example "your welcome" how can we tell if this is right or wrong? Here's a little trick, we're going to write our sentence backwards "welcome your", now since it's the possessive "your" we're going to add the word "of" in front of it and an "s" at the and of "your":

"welcome of yours"

That doesn't sound like what we're trying to say now does it? Let's try something similar for "you're".

"You're welcome"
"Welcome you're"

Now we're going to take "you're" apart:

"Welcome you are"

Well now, that sounds more like what we're trying to say (and more like Yoda.

Now I honestly think a lot of you who are reading this are smarter than to have to take your whole sentence apart to figure out if you're using the right word, but then again, I know a lot of very smart and talented people who still use them wrong, which is a scary thing to me. If we're so stupid we can't even use our own language correctly what other repercussions could possibly follow suit?



...oh...right...


Wake up people. Do you honestly think anyone who has a hint of intelligence is going to pay you any attention if you can't even speak coherently?

-Kibs

Suicidals and Emos (redundancy and repetition)

Should all stop being pussies, off themselves and be done with it, *oooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooor* shut the hell up about it.

How is your life so horrible that you spend your entire life sulking in a corner about how much you'd rather die because your girlfriend broke up with you by making you a mix tape of her favorite my chem songs she downloaded at your house on your personal laptop bought on the dime of your parents who've done nothing to hurt you and have only shown you love and compassion as evident by the fact that there's a roof over your head and you're not an aborted fetus.

My friend has a mother who simply dislikes her, she works very hard to make money so she can pay the rent for her apartment which her mother is too lazy to pay herself and would rather go gambling with any money she makes herself. At any given moment she'll walk in and tell her blatantly that she thinks she's worthless. Her mother also controls every penny she makes, any money she has to spend is her own, but regulated by her mother, and she is constantly hounded by her mother for the purchasing even the cheapest things she chooses to spend her money on.

In other words:
HER LIFE SUCKS!

But what does she do about it?
She sucks it up and looks to a brighter future when she can finally move out and get away from her mother's tyranny.

Do you know what else she does?
SHE AGREES WITH ME.

Shut the hell up and stop being such a pansy, I know how tough it can be being an upper middle-class white American, but you hang in there, kid, maybe some day your girlfriend will come back to you.

Or you could get the hell over it, grow a pair, and find a new girlfriend and/or convince your current girlfriend that she's missing out on something more than a pre-pubescent little fricktard who's main goal in life is to make as many people as possible notice the half-assed scars on your wrist.

You little pussy.

-Kibs

Female Fashion - Do's and Don'ts

Some of you may have noticed.

But I'm a guy, and as a guy I know what guys like. While I like to pride myself in not being shallow or sex-crazed, I still know what I like to see in and on a girl.

Even though girls are always getting better at finding ways to look pretty, there are a few things that a good amount of girls are into, yet as a guy, I ask myself if they're trying to drive men away.

These aren't in any particular order:

Fashion Don't #1: Tattoos
Some guys do like these, but I'll tell you right now, any guy that's worth having probably doesn't want to see a tramp stamp on your back, or some random animal on your ankle. I don't know how much I can stress how bad of an idea it is to get a tattoo, especially for women, the majority of the time, they don't usually look bad. Now, there is one tattoo I, myself, have always thought to be cool, a wedding ring, underneath my wedding band as a symbolic representation of the vows I made for marriage, as I would never truly be able to take off my wedding ring. But my point remains, with exception, tattoos are generally not a good idea.

Now to clarify this I'm not saying that any tattoo is wrong, and if you happen to get one you're a horrible person, tattoos can be good if they mean something (see previous wedding ring example) however, too often are tattoos simply traced onto someone's flesh like a masochistic game of connect the dots without any real thought put behind it, I.E. the actual conversation between myself and a friend of mine who will remain anonymous *cough*Haley*cough* which went as follows:

Hals: I'm thinking about getting a tattoo.
Me: What of, where, and why?
Hals: I dunno, I just want a tattoo.

Obviously there has to be something wrong with her if she simply wants to permanently mark her body with no real reasoning or thought put behind it other than the simple fact that it's apparently fun to blow upwards of $50 to have someone shove a needle underneath your flesh and inject hot ink into the lower layers of your dermis which takes several days to heal, and can only be removed through a very expensive and painful process that is virtually nothing more than ripping off parts of your skin.

But what do I know?

Also, I still <3 you Wendy~

Fashion Don't #2: "Poof"


It's ugly, no guy likes it, it's stupid and looks like you're trying to cover up a tumor on your head, which is reasonably believable because you'd have to have a brain tumor to think this style looks good. Whenever I see a girl with this hairstyle I think she's a lesbian, here's my reasoning:

Attractive to people
- Guys
--------------------
= Attractive to girls

Meaning that any girl who wears her hair like that must logically be trying to attract other women, via process of elimination.

Have I made my point?

THIS HAIRSTYLE IS UGLY, AND GUYS DON'T LIKE IT!!!!!!

Fashion Don't #3: The Empire Strikes Back
>>Just read this<<
It pretty much sums it up right there, the only time an empire cut waistline is acceptable is on a wedding dress.
Also, you should check out Misfile (misfile.com), it's a fun read.

Fashion Don't #4: Kissy Face
Simply put, don't to that retarded kissy face in every picture of yourself, it looks stupid, and makes you seem 80% less intelligent than you actually are (which, I'm assuming, isn't very bright to begin with, as you have to be told not to do it).

Hope this helps.

-Kibs

The "I met a guy" syndrome.

I was lying in bed watching some random discovery channel show (because discovery channel rocks my socks) before I decided to go off to sleep, as I am accustomed to keeping my cell phone on my bed for convenience of alarms and calls in the morning I was quite startled as it began to ring on its highest volume, I picked it up and glanced at the name, "Ash". I hadn't talked to Ashley in a while and wondered what she wanted so I quickly hit the "send" button to answer it (which, incidentally should be labeled "call" or "connect").

She began to regale me with the events of the past few months, as it had been quite a while since we'd been in contact, one of the things she mentioned was that she had "met a guy", I found this to be amusing and thought to myself "it's already a doomed relationship". Now there are two reasons why this crossed my mind, the first of which is simply the amount of boyfriends Ashley goes through on a yearly basis, a pattern of meeting someone, and then breaking up with them 2-4 weeks later.

Now, while I love her to death I'm still concerned with her current paradigm, one which is massively self-involved, and lacking a good deal of outward concern for others, in other words, she can tend to be selfish and "high maintenance". Now, while all of that plays into the ultimate demise of all of her relationships, the main issue is what I like to call the "I met a guy" syndrome.

I Met A Guy Syndrome
noun
1. The unfortunate mindset that you can, and should, date someone who you have met not more than 2 weeks prior.
"I'm hot, you're hot, let's have sex."

While I know the example is not completely realistic, it is eerily close to the scenarios that happen a good majority of the time.

The issue here in a great deal of society is the fact that nobody ever takes the time to get to know another person.
"But Kibs, I thought dating was what you did to get to know someone"
Yes, dating is, but what is dating? Nowadays dating is what was once known as "courting". IN other words, people nowadays skip the initial dating and skip straight to courtship, which often leads to failure of the relationship at one point or another down the road.

The best way I can explain all of this is through example.

Situation A.
Dick and Jane have seen eachother around the bars and local clubs a few times, Dick is impressed with Jane's looks and approaches Jane and asks if she'd like a drink, Jane obliges, seeing as Dick is quite the charming fellow. They begin talking about their lives and what they like to do and find that they have a few things in common. The Last Call goes out for drinks and they both decide to have one more, as the night comes to an end Dick invites Jane to his apartment to "talk" over some more drinks, and idle television, barely an hour passes and Dick and Jane are involved in some heavy kissing and makin' outs. One thing leads to another and we find Dick and Jane in bed practicing gymnastics. Jane decides she likes Dick and she accepts an invitation to move in with Dick. A few weeks or months pass, perhaps they got married, perhaps they didn't, but at this point marriage is nothing more than an official formality for Dick and Jane, as the only thing that would change for them is the way they file taxes. Jane has found several things about Dick she does not like, and Dick has begun to notice that Jane is a little too needy for him, the relationship soon ends in a disastrous argument, and they soon return to their club life, and the cycle repeats itself.

What went wrong?
Dick and Jane had only met a few times, neither of them had really gotten to know one another, and hadn't felt eachother out very well. They also had sex far too early in their relationship, this is a key factor in the failure of the relationship.

Why?
Sex affects men and women differently. Did you know that after premarital sex women feel a deeper sense of closeness to their partner, while men often slightly lose interest in their partner?

Why is this?
The way men and women are programmed to view sex. Simply put, women (and men, initially) feel that sex is a bonding agent in a relationship, while men (nowadays) view sex as a goal of a relationship.

The simple fact of the matter is that sex is not intended to be a recreational activity, it is meant to be between a husband and wife, in the bond of marriage.

"Kibs, you're just a religious nut, sex isn't some kind of religious institution, it's an evolutionary tool for procreation"

Evolutionarily speaking, sex is meant to procreate, meaning that anything other than its intended use, to create children, is a misuse, and what usually happens when we use a tool for something other than its intended purpose? Something gets messed up, and we end up hurting ourselves.

In short: Don't have sex if you're not in a position to raise a child. That includes two parents, a roof over its head, and food. Because we all know that kids under single parents often develop issues.

Statistics show that two people who have premarital sex in a relationship are highly more likely to break up than those who do not. It is also a fact that spontaneous relationships are also highly likely to fail.

Situation B.
Mike and Jamey have been good friends since childhood, and have gotten to know eachother very well, they have dated other people, and have always remained good friends, unfortunately the other relationships hadn't worked out. One day, Jamey notices that she's been thinking about Mike a lot, and he has a similar revelation, after a bit of dodgy conversation they both agree that they have begun to like eachother in a way more than just friends, and decide to go on a few dates, while taking it slow, the first date is slightly awkward, and they're both nervous, despite how well they already know eachother, they decide it went well afterward and they agree to go on a few more, eventually they realize that they are very compatible, and decide to court, or "go steady". A few years pass and, out of respect for one another, they've only kissed, Mike decides it's time for them to take their relationship to the next step, and buys a ring, he eventually finds the right time and place, and asks Jamey to marry him, excited, she answers yes. The better part of a year passes and Mike and Jamey are now married, and living together in a nice home. They grow old together, and spend the rest of their lives fully in love with one another, although there had been some rough times, they both knew that their marriage had never truly been in jeopardy.

What they did right:
Simple, they didn't rush, they got to know eachother first, this is key in the success of a relationship, you can't simply rush into a relationship with someone you barely know, it's just not smart. As they used to say, your spouse is your best friend. People may hear this nowadays and think that it simply means that you end up becoming best friends with who you marry. Wrong.

"But Kibs, Mike and Jamey may have had some differences, and idiosyncrasies that bothered the other person."

Yes, there are things about people that can eventually begin to annoy someone, but this is in no way any reason to break up with the person, a relationship isn't a status, it's a process. In a relationship you have to work with your partner on both ends to help make the other happy, that means sacrifices. Here's two examples.

Bpth Dick and Mike have a habit of leaving their dirty laundry on the bathroom floor, both Jane and Jamey are tired of having to clean this up, however, they go about handling it in different ways:

Jane:
Jane puts up with it for a little while, slightly hinting that it bothers her, Dick doesn't pick up on her hints, as he and Jane haven't gotten to know eachother very well still. Jane eventually erupts at Dick about how she's tired of him leaving his laundry on the floor, very soon a large argument breaks out, Jane argues that she shouldn't have to clean up his clothes for him, and Dick argues that it's not such a big deal.

What went wrong?
They both initially made mistakes, Dick had no consideration for his partner, and simply did as he pleased, while Jane didn't bring it to Dick's attention until she was already very mad about it.

Jamey:
Jamey brought it to Mike's attention very early on in their marriage that she didn't appreciate him leaving his dirty laundry on the floor, he agreed to be more cautious in the future, but asks that she give him some leeway if he happens to do it again, as it is a habit of his he's going to have to consciously break, she agrees to not get mad if it accidentally happens.

What they did right:
Very early on at the beginning of the problem it was brought to the other's attention in a non-hostile manner, they both agreed to modify their behavior and be more conscious of their partner's feelings.

You see, the main thing that can keep a relationship afloat is selflessness. If one or both of the parties are not willing to make reasonable sacrifices the relationship is going to be strained.

However, you shouldn't simply be a doormat, one person cannot simply sacrifice their happiness for the relationship.

To wrap things up:
Relationships have been commercialized, and anything and everything sacred about them has been distorted into selfish ambitions, and love is almost never a factor. Relationships should be based off of love, not self-indulgent pleasure, and with that I leave you with the original, and best definition of love, what should be the foundation, glue, and structure of every relationship:
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves."
-- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

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Kibs

Christening of Kibs Korner

Welcome!
Here's my first post to begin my new blog, check back for bits and pieces of my common sense, ideas, and random rants!

Check back weekly, I'll be posting weekly every Monday, and randomly throughout the week if I find something interesting I've just gotta share now!